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The Mirrors Of You.
Sat Sep 25 2004

Found this on the net - made me think about our perceptions of others.
Cherie Carter-Scott's rules of life:
Others are only mirrors of you.
"You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself.
Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs..."

Indeed we have personal criteria for what's bad, what's good. How often those who can't find anything positive in themselves, can't find it in others too. Why miserable people attract miserable people? Why happy people seek the company of happy people?

We are too impatient to take time to learn about each other, we are so quick to judge instead, based on our personal book of laws: "what's good for me, should be good enough for you"...

I am guilty of this too. And never actually realised that my judgment based on my self-verdict.
If I would hate myself a lot, what is the chance that I could love the others?

6 Comments
  • From:
    Labyrinth (Legacy)
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    Sun Sep 26 2004
    oh defintiely, am hands down to this entry of yours. i agree. but i would still want to attract the opposite. lol.

    i am impressed by the comment you left on my diary. you really can speak so well. where some find it a challenge to comment, you found it so easy to give bits of your wisdom.

    Orient:)
  • From:
    Hasher (Legacy)
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    Sun Sep 26 2004
    i dont think i properly thanked you for your comments in my diary recently and for that i am truly sorry. they really did help me.

    i do this to some extent but not everyone that i detest has something that i hate about myself, you know? and some of the people i hang out with are on the other side of the spectrum. well, close to the other side of the spectrum. ;)

    i dont know. seems to me that we choose people who are like us because they get on our nerves less, are more knowledgeable of things that we dont like. people who are different then us might not understand our temper or our quirks.


    hasher
  • From:
    Pragmatist (Legacy)
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    Sun Sep 26 2004
    Good question. Seems you're on the road to discovery.

    Shalom
  • From:
    Bubbles1956 (Legacy)
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    Sun Sep 26 2004
    Ah yes, the old "misery loves company" motto. I try very hard to surround myself with funny and loving people. Sometimes, when I am not in such a funny mood, I try to stay away from everyone. Good read again.

    Internet Mom
  • From:
    Ichandra (Legacy)
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    Sun Sep 26 2004
    i agree you philosopher you also i think we have needs and judgements operating on a subconscious level that can lead to judgement of others
    love never criticizes i wonder how possible it is to arrive at that ideal i guess even the most atrocious acts can be understood but not tolerated
  • From:
    Yetzirah (Legacy)
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    Tue Sep 28 2004
    RYC: On the new server... No, I had to type in my username to comment.... although I did not try to use the unauthenticated user box come to think of it.... Hmmmmm.