Don't Be A Victim. Leap
Mon Mar 20 2006

Victim. You are a victim because you believe you don’t deserve anything better. It doesn’t always have to be this way. Let somebody else be a victim for a change. Next time you’re walking down a busy street, push somebody else under a bus and shout  “Look, a victim, and it’s somebody else!” Deal with any residual quilt feelings by using Reiki healing techniques.

Ok, so this was a joke. Alistair Beaton’s Bollocks. But as everybody knows, in each joke there is a piece of…something else…I’m feeling rather shrink-ish and wish to “think aloud” about victims...we always expect something from others. For strange reasons we feel like somebody out there really ought to come up and make us happy. So we sit and wait…and when they don’t, we start to look for something or somebody to blame. 

Could be weather. A snowfall or a sandstorm stood up on their way. A petrol run out, a camel died...Could be their job that kept them too occupied or their lover, or mistress. Or it could be that someone changed their mind into something else, powdered sugar, perhaps, maybe somebody replaced their grey matter with weetabix and straightened their convolutions…we might think of million reasons, but strangely enough none of them will be - our fault. And even when it happenned to be our fault, it will be "iamthatwaybecauseofyou" kind of fault. By default we will assume ourselves being a victim of chance or a fate or indeed a somebody’s evil plans. 

So what do we do? Naturally, we sit and blame the others. And guess, what happens when everybody just sit around, waiting for everybody else? A one big stupid waiting game…who’d outstay whom. (or outsit in this context) We’re wasting time, people! We just sit in that swamp, like a frog, waiting for the prince to kiss us and turn into something we are not quite yet. But don’t forget that even the frog had to leap higher to catch the arrow so that she can blackmail the prince afterwards (I hope everybody knows this story? * )…so the moral of the fable would be: don’t sit and be a victim, leap high and become somebody’s frog…
hmmmm…I wonder how I ended up in a fairy tale? But at least I’ve enjoyed it in the process. ;-) 


* ok, so it is now became obvious that although everybody knows the story, they know it upside down. You see,  what happens to be a romantic tale about true love kiss and a male speices of a green leaping thing, does exists in a beautiful reflection of a romatic tale about how the prince accidentally shoot off his arrow and some accidental lady-frog happenned to catch this arrow, by pure chance, I believe, trying to save her life...so...when the prince came to claim his arrow back, lady frog decided t oget some compensation for inconvinience and refused t o return the arrow until the prince kiss her (kiss the frog, not the arrow, duh!) so he did and suddenly the frog becomes a beautiful princess and sure enough, they live happily ever after (hmmm not concidering few "family issues")...so this was the story I've heard in my sweet childhood and that was the matter of reference here...
But after I've been informed that my frog appears to be a frog with gender identity disorder, I've decided to make it clear that it was just a cultural nuance, not a grammatical mistake... after all, everything is possible in a fairy tale, right?
6 Comments
  • From:
    Dananarama (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Mar 21 2006
    I think people tend to victimise themselves for two reasons.

    It's easier to blame something or someone else than it is to accept that we might be the reason for it.

    Either that or they want others to feel sorry for them.

    You are only a victim if you allow yourself to be.

    Good entry :o)

  • From:
    Jagged (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Mar 21 2006
    I say grab that frog and plant a great big wet one right on his lips... He probably won't turn into a prince, but you will have made his day!
  • From:
    IsolatedHell (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Mar 21 2006
    RYC: Its funny....the weather here has been rainy and cold, but Saturday morning it was as if mother nature decided to give us a repreve just for the air show. All weekend it was beautiful and then this morning the rain showed up again.~laughs~
    When I was a teenager I had to take a selfdefense class in school because of a "flasher" who was hanging around the school. I learned there that the best way to stop being a victim was to look the world in the eye and never allow yourself to feel less then "queenly" or "kingly" depending on your gender.~smiles~
  • From:
    Pragmatist (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Mar 21 2006
    I never heard that version of the fairytale.

    I absolutely, positively and categorically refuse to be a victim. And if it should happen that I be mobbed, mugged, or otherwise inconvenienced, I'll sic my daughter on the malfeasor. So there!!!

    Shalom
  • From:
    Jagged (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Mar 21 2006
    I thought I'd point out the obvious here, because I've become a big fan of the obvious lately. The victims are by definition victims, as they are the ones who miss out on life while caught up in their "victimness." Their "woe is me" attitude is not necesarily incorrect, its their attributions for the cause of those feelings that is missplaced. When you chose to identify yourself as a victim (by label or by action), you are being victimised by no one but yourself.

    You got me thinking about this one, but I must stop myself before any new ideas form and push out valuable information on the standard error of measurement in test development.
  • From:
    Dreammom (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Mar 21 2006
    yes it's real inconvenunt to go up there the reasen they seen me up there is if we wont comeply with where they want me to go they wont take care of me they said that they would discontnue careing for me if i didn't see there diation and go to osu for my diabetes and now the smoning i tryed yet again to get a dif. dr. and they said no cause of how late in the pg i am and cause i'm high risk and thats what everyone tells me everytime i try to get away from these drs. i don't realy trust i'm stuck with them i was so hopeing that finely i would be able to get help closer to home with drs. i finely trust but no such luck me and my hubby are so agrivated it's almost depresing .