Last weekend I was preoccupied with the car window-shopping. It was in my initial plans to replace my old one when its MOT runs out. Well, it runs out end of March, so since I lost almost a month in Russia, I felt being sort of under pressure to make a choice - to invest into new car or to invest into my old one to keep it for another year...but the old car might cost fortune to pass the test, so I went out to research the options I have.
It turned out that I did have options. So I pursued them. And was surprised by the ease how the task turned out to be. It literally cost me just a few hours of online research and a Saturday morning to go-and-get it. I went to buy a car and…bought a car. How odd it that.
Once again I’ve been thinking about how we tend to make decisions in our daily life. It is how much emotions we invest into them, that makes the decisions difficult or easy. Physiologically-wise, it is just a decision. Just some thought process, some neurons interacting with each other electromechanically. Neurons cannot do it “hard” or “easy”. They either do it or not. It is not generally hard to “think”, isn’t it? What appears to be hard is – to deal with the imagined consequences. And they are exactly that – they are imagined. No reason for them to become real. But often we blow them out of proportions, make them bigger then life, imagine how they will barge into our everyday and change everything for the worse.
It has become wonderfully easy for me to make decisions. Mainly because they often affect just myself. And that’s easy to have responsibilities narrowed down for only one life, your own. This is so far the only positive change that happened to me after divorce. The one I can truly feel thankful for. I have become the Master of My Own Life. How cool is that. Makes me feel powerful.
A great relevant quote from my Daily Motivator Ralph Marston. I like it, so it deserves to be singled out: “…Those who achieve do not know that they can't. Those who fail to achieve, do not realize that they can. What do you believe you can do? What do you think you cannot do? Whatever it is, you are right…”