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Fri Mar 23 2001

This entry is likely to be emotional, and I may swear a bit. Most of it is not directed at individuals, because I don't (yet) know who the individuals are. You know who you are though, so take heed. This is aimed at the supposed adults of this site. Those who are at least adult purely by effect of their age. Most of them are more childish than the children.

We WILL NOT tolerate abusive behaviour at this site. ESPECIALLY when it is aimed at people who are, or even appear to be, children. I don't give one flying hoot whether you believe they are abused children or not. IF you cannot believe they are who they say they are then quit reading their diary.

I remember the episode where some of you were taken in by a diarist called Fairy something. I know you're hurting over that. But there ARE genuine cases on this site of abused kids and they need support. They do not need your further abuse in email or in comments.

If I catch anyone being abusive to kids, heads will roll. I mean it. Grow up or get out, its as simple as that. The bottom line is this;

If you don't believe someone, thats your choice. But do not leave comments doubting them. Just, do not leave comments at all. Do not. You do not understand or realise the hurt, pain and suffering you cause genuine kids. If you don't believe them, just walk on by. Don't say, or do anything.

Failure to comply with this is considered a gross breach of our terms and conditions of use, and a serious misuse of our network. As such, if you are in the UK you will be considered in breach of the Computer Misuse Act 1990 (a jailable offence) and I shall endeavour to find out the law of the US so that the same applies. You have been warned.

To the kids who have suffered as a result of the nasty comments, I apologise sincerely on behalf of the subhumans who frequent this site merely so they can wait for your diary to be updated and have, what they believe is a bit of fun. The saddest thing of all is that they don't even stop to realise the pain they cause you and the people that believe in you. They don't stop to realise the effects their comments have on you, and above all, and saddest of all, they don't stop to realise just how easily it could have been them in your shoes.

13 Comments
  • From:
    Funnydreamer (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    Thank you for sticking up for those children!

    FD.

  • From:
    Mr W (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    I thank you for that comment and thank you for reading my email to you.

    I do believe you will stop a lot more pain.

    Mr "Thankful" Whimsical

  • From:
    Rosebud (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    Thank you so very much.
    I have been there and it isnt nice.
    Infact,when it first happen to me...it undid so much healing. However, now..it just makes me mad!!

    Rosie

  • From:
    Question (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    I wish to pose a question.
    Where does your responsibilty end with children that are disclosing abusive situtions on your site?
    I know of other sites where they have to report, via ISP numbers or the information is given to Cyber Angels or Net Detective or one of those such organisations.
    I am wondering are you under any kind of moral or ethical obligation to report alleged abuse? There are minors writing here that are still in these situtions.
    I realise of course there is no obligation and you cant be held accountable or anything for not reporting suspcions as we all could be held repsonsible because we read it and do nothing. I want to know your personal view on it.
    Abuse disclosed to teachers or doctors if not reported they can be charged with neglect in some countries.
    Interested in how it works over the internet.
  • From:
    Rosebud (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    I wanted to address that question about reporting.
    I dont know the answer, however, there is a abuse chatroom/help room whatever..that is totally above board, and DOES NOT REPORT.They seek to get the kid to the safe place but they dont turn the kid in.It in no way would be going against the law, so there must be acts or laws etc covering them. In the same way in Australia, teachers etc have to report, yet kids can ring a help line to talk about abuse or hundreds of other problems, and they DONT report either.There has to be laws of some sort I guess.
  • From:
    Daffy Duck (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    Hell Yeah!!!!
    Thanks! This is what the Doctor ordered!!!

    One questions: Did you guys delete The Husband's
    diary? If you did...I owe you guys a box of "Cocoa Puffs" and a case of "Whip Ass!" Peace is finally restored!!!

    Daffy

  • From:
    To Rosebud (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    I think I know the room your referring to and isnt it there policy that if they think your in mortal danger they will report?
    I thought it was, but I may be wrong.
  • From:
    Honey (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    I am so happy to be part of DD.
    To know that you really care about these diariest as real people, as not just writers.
    Hooray! To you for standing up against these diary bashers.
    I personally do not read diaries that has real bad language or sex in it.
    I do not see why they can't mark it private for their sexual fantasy or foul language.
    I want to thank you for all of the help that you have given to me.

    Keep up the good work.
    Honey

  • From:
    Rosebud (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    Yes ....I recall seeing something like that there, maybe ask buggee, she goes and may know.
  • From:
    Nova (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Mar 23 2001
    You guys do a great job already, and its good to know you care to make this a safe place for the children. Good job guys!!!
  • From:
    Damselita (Legacy)
    On:
    Sat Mar 24 2001
    Hurray for you guys! It amazes me that someone would write harsh or nasty comments on a child's diary, even if it may not be a child or real. Why take a chance of hurting someone who is already in pain? "Just don't read it," is a command that should be obeyed by all of us who might have a problem with someone or doubt someone else's veracity. If a child in Texas is ever in need of discreet and heartfelt help, count me in! Blessings, as usual!
  • From:
    Runaway (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Mar 27 2001
    I think what you have created in DD is awesome, and that you have made so much available free of charge.
    I agree, if you don't like something don't read it. In the world of internet we are all exposed to untruths it's a risk we take but there are so many genuine people just looking for that little something(support, friendship,advise and so on) and even fairy jada, it was just a shame she didn't have the courage to approach people as herself. Thankyou DD for being there for all of us, and go kick butt to those who abuse.
    luv runaway
  • From:
    Anonymous Coward (Legacy)
    On:
    Sun Apr 08 2001
    That's complete bull.

    Diaries...opinions...free speech, right?

    If someone wants to leave a comment, they have every right to do so. It is the diarist's choice to delete the comment and ignore it.

    This is possibly one of the most hypocritical things I have ever read.

    Thanks for nothing, administrators.