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Yetzirah

I've Fallen Behind And I Can't Catch Up !
Fri Jul 29 2005



The other day, Hub Man, his daughter and I went to visit his oldest daughter who lives a few hours away from us. The two sisters hadn't seen each other in many months because they live in different states now. We had a very nice day of it too.

But the thing that stuck with me most about our visit was something that happened late in the afternoon.

Oldest daughter who is a saleswoman, was working from home. She had her laptop on and was trying to figure out how to empty out her mailbox into a new folder because she could not receive any more emails and people were complaining, at the same time she was on the phone with clients trying to smooth out some ruffled feathers over a malfunctioning computer network. The other daughter was talking on the phone with her real estate agent because there was an offer on a house they were selling. Earlier, the agent had faxed her a copy of the offer. So she signed a counter offer and faxed it back while talking on the phone at the same time.

So there I was watching these two young women with phones in their ears and both of them were using other machines at the same time getting all sorts of stuff done. One of them had her jammies on. It was just such a "future shock" moment for me, I had to laugh.

Then on the drive home, younger daughter spent some time talking to her kids who were half a continent away. It still seems funny to me to be talking on the phone in the car.

The ubiquitous cell phone has really altered how people function in the world. You are never, well almost never, unreachable. Now this was working very well for the two daughters that day, but I wonder about the long term effects.
Will we feel lonely, empty, cut off, or anxious if our phone addiction was ever interrupted?

I went to the synagogue last night for a class. There were two young men there who were mopping the floor. One of them was talking to someone on his cell phone with one of those little headphone gadgets. I wonder if he was REALLY paying attention to his mopping?

Are we so afraid to be alone for a few minutes?


I don't have a cell phone. I don't want a cell phone. I suppose the main reason is the money. We already PAY for a phone at home. Why do I want to pay for ANOTHER one? Besides that, the darn things are too tiny. I can't even SEE the numbers on them without my glasses. I only use glasses for reading, so if I was driving and trying to dial my phone, I would most certainly have a collision. I know everyone seems to feel the tinier they are the better they are, but not me. If I had one, I would want something a little more substantial.

Boy do I sound like a Luddite today.

Ah well, no use trying to hide it I guess.



Rabbi Nachman of Breslov:


"Seek the sacred
within the ordinary.
Seek the remarkable
within the commonplace."

10 Comments
  • From:
    Dustbunny3 (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Jul 29 2005
    I too worry about long term effects. I do believe we are seeing overload in just how much our brain can absorb .The stress factor will at some point trip the circuit breaker and bad decisions will surface like a marble in a jug.
    LOST and alone in space.
  • From:
    Pragmatist (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Jul 29 2005
    I have a cell phone, but only because daughter and a neighbor kept insisting on "what if..." But the thing is, I frequently forget to have the phone with me. So, "what if..."?

    I do try to remember to have it with me when I'm in the car, because I'm driving a junker, and who knows when I might need to call AAA. But even then, the phone is frequently here on my puter desk or night table, or somewhere other than my purse.

    I don't understand this growing need to be continually attached or available.
  • From:
    Kordelle (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Jul 29 2005
    hi cupcake
    I really think that an advantage to all this headphone gear is that we are multitasking setting up various pathways through the brain ha ha whereas before there was only one ha ha well I am in a positive mood today

    I feel the same way about cell phones when you pay for one why bother paying for another but sometimes for business it is good and it is great for highway driving if your car breaks down and people tell me it is a good way to keep track of their kids but I have heard that the cell phones may not be good ford the developing crania
    anyway just a couple of opinions I guess everyone has something to say on a cell phone well that was a language trick hee hee

    well my friend I will be away from the libraries in this next summer month a bit of travelling and summer stuff so I will see you in september cupcake
    yetzirah stay beautiful
  • From:
    Salamander (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Jul 29 2005
    Two things.

    One: Cell phones have actually liberated me from the leash of my land line. When I moved this spring I cancelled my house phone and never looked back. I'm now in a position to use whatever spare time comes my way and take care of business that used to have to wait until I got home and settled. I am able to keep in closer touch with friends, and most important of all, I no longer feel guilty if I don't immediately run and pick up a phone call at an inconvenient time (indeed, my phone is on "silent" during meals and favorite television shows).

    Two: I'll be glad when DD admin fixes your notification message. It's a pain to look up your URL every time I get a notification from you.

    Three (I can't count): I noticed yesterday (when your page was taking an unusually long time to load and all I had was your checkered background for several minutes) that your background creates a totally cool three-dimensional optical illusion. I was just staring at it blankly, daydreaming while waiting for your diary to load, and all of a sudden the gingham pattern jumped out at me, crystal clear and with a weird depth effect to it. You need to update a blank page so I can play with the optical illusion some more!
  • From:
    ImNotLisa (Legacy)
    On:
    Sat Jul 30 2005
    I have a cell phone but only use it to let Rick know I've arrived at my destination and again when I'm ready to leave. Conversations are short and sweet and to the point.
  • From:
    Sezrah (Legacy)
    On:
    Sat Jul 30 2005
    i too sometimes wonder how people will cope if there ever comes the time when all cellphone usage ceases (for whatever reason). i have one that is for work purposes and prefer to leave it behind when possible

    sez
  • From:
    Bookworm (Legacy)
    On:
    Sat Jul 30 2005
    Lol, I wonder too how these things will change us in the long term. I only have a mobile as a tool, but I see people who should just strap it to their heads. I can't imagine needing the phone that much. It's nice to be out of reach soemtimes. ;-)
  • From:
    Fairywishes (Legacy)
    On:
    Sat Jul 30 2005
    I feel the same way as you, however I *do* have a mobile phone and I *am* pretty reliant on it now I suppose. I was only thinking the other day how having a cell changes even little things, like how you go about meeting someone - now I get a text via my phone from a friend, we arrange to meet up that way and then they'll invariably say I'll phone you when I get there or phone me when you arrive. 15 years ago, you had to meet up at a certain time and place that you had previously arranged and had to stick to it, with no chance of phoning that person in between...

    I don't like those little head piece thingies, I think they are very unnatural and must be bad for you surely.

    What worries me even more is that *most* of the kids in my son's class have a phone now, they are 10! My son does not have one but I wonder how long it will be - I feel that in a way it is a safety thing for him, which I think is how the things got so popular in the first place!

    have a good weekend.
    x
    x
  • From:
    Supertrooper (Legacy)
    On:
    Sat Jul 30 2005
    I dont like cell phones either and refuse to get one ...so we can both be Luddites together buddy ...

    Us against the world !! lol

    Hugs
    Linda xxx
  • From:
    Allimom (Legacy)
    On:
    Sun Jul 31 2005
    I will keep a cell phone while the kids are still in school so I can be gotten a hold of if something happens, but I sincerely hope that after they are all out of school (I've got at least until 2012 when #3 should graduate) I can get rid of the damn thing!

    They do have their purpose, but boy are they annoying.
    Alli