If you think of it, there is something disturbing in the need for a special day dedicated to Love… aren’t we suppose to love each and ever day? To celebrate love every time we feel her hand upon us? Why would we have only one day a year to buy roses and invite to romantic dinner in candlelight? Don’t know about you, but to me this sounds as neglect. We invented a special day to remind us to love each other…how sad is that?
Driving from work yesterday, listened to the radio – they were interviewing some chef of a popular restaurant about how different Valentine’s day is from any other day in his business…what he shared was a bit on a bitter side…apparently, lots of ppl get so stressed about organizing obligatory romantic Valentine’s for their loved ones, that in the end they unable to enjoy it…he also noticed that the atmosphere in the restaurant on this particular day tends to be rather …”tense”…half-toned talks, women feel tension because they expect proposals, offers, etc, men feel tension because they feel this pressure to do something special…hmmmm…is it a place you’d want to be on a romantic dinner? Or to be one of a dozen “happy couples” to be married on this particular day in the same romantic location? How does this makes your wedding more special? Or do something else that for some reason is considered to be “romantic” and very “valentine’s”? Strange, eh? Somehow to me the day becomes less special if I’ve got to do “special” things that everyone is doing as well…as if ticking off the boxes from the list “to do”:
To give a kiss in the morning
To buy red roses
To buy special gift
To go to the restaurant
To put on romantic music
To make love in the evening
How come that all those things become special? Can’t we do them any other day? Every day? (Ok, some, maybe every other day, if you not fit enough physically
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Oh, and those expectations?!!! What if you’d arrange something and they won’t like it? What if they didn’t like a gift you gave them? What if they prefer a bunch of camomiles to that one long expensive rose from Ecuador? What if they’re not in the mood for sex? How many get disappointed with one day only because they expect from him certain things “by default”? And then it’ll become another day in their “black books” to pull out from the memory in anger along with once forgotten birthday or wedding anniversary…
Following previous entry’s TV-complain…there was not a single “valentine’s” program yesterday…how odd is that? So I watched my DVD to make up for the total absence of romantic movies. Phantom Of The Opera. For the fifth time in the last two months…yeah…felt the same emotional as the first time, actually, spent the same amount of Kleenex as before...
We had pub lunch with the colleagues yesterday. And a chat with the old times friend in the evening, listening to the music. What’s new?… just another day…
I know that when I wish so, I can cast a spell on a time and make it special just by wanting to do so…and I don’t need one grey day of February allocated to such things…not really. The days are special when we make them so.
So what are you waiting for? Make YOUR day Special. Now is as good time as any other time, really ...
Driving from work yesterday, listened to the radio – they were interviewing some chef of a popular restaurant about how different Valentine’s day is from any other day in his business…what he shared was a bit on a bitter side…apparently, lots of ppl get so stressed about organizing obligatory romantic Valentine’s for their loved ones, that in the end they unable to enjoy it…he also noticed that the atmosphere in the restaurant on this particular day tends to be rather …”tense”…half-toned talks, women feel tension because they expect proposals, offers, etc, men feel tension because they feel this pressure to do something special…hmmmm…is it a place you’d want to be on a romantic dinner? Or to be one of a dozen “happy couples” to be married on this particular day in the same romantic location? How does this makes your wedding more special? Or do something else that for some reason is considered to be “romantic” and very “valentine’s”? Strange, eh? Somehow to me the day becomes less special if I’ve got to do “special” things that everyone is doing as well…as if ticking off the boxes from the list “to do”:
To give a kiss in the morning
To buy red roses
To buy special gift
To go to the restaurant
To put on romantic music
To make love in the evening
How come that all those things become special? Can’t we do them any other day? Every day? (Ok, some, maybe every other day, if you not fit enough physically
) Oh, and those expectations?!!! What if you’d arrange something and they won’t like it? What if they didn’t like a gift you gave them? What if they prefer a bunch of camomiles to that one long expensive rose from Ecuador? What if they’re not in the mood for sex? How many get disappointed with one day only because they expect from him certain things “by default”? And then it’ll become another day in their “black books” to pull out from the memory in anger along with once forgotten birthday or wedding anniversary…
Following previous entry’s TV-complain…there was not a single “valentine’s” program yesterday…how odd is that? So I watched my DVD to make up for the total absence of romantic movies. Phantom Of The Opera. For the fifth time in the last two months…yeah…felt the same emotional as the first time, actually, spent the same amount of Kleenex as before...
We had pub lunch with the colleagues yesterday. And a chat with the old times friend in the evening, listening to the music. What’s new?… just another day…
I know that when I wish so, I can cast a spell on a time and make it special just by wanting to do so…and I don’t need one grey day of February allocated to such things…not really. The days are special when we make them so.
So what are you waiting for? Make YOUR day Special. Now is as good time as any other time, really ...