We deserve what we have got, really. When we talk of “deserveness” we should look at it in two ways. Firstly, we judge others based on their worthiness. We can say: this person deserves / doesn’t deserve whatever…and this is where it’s all get unfair and unjust. Because of course we judge others based on our own very subjective experience. And most of this “judgment” will be – comparison. We willingly or unwillingly compare others with ourselves. All the judgment is relative. Apart from the basic moral values, but those always get swapped under the tablecloth of artificial ceremonies (religions)* and hidden agendas (wars) **
We do also have an idea of our own worthiness. Not as in “I deserve to be a millionaire” but as in “I deserve to be as happy as I wish to be, as clever as I think I should be, as respected, as loved as I believe I have all qualities for this”. In a sense of self-assessed worthiness we always fair and just. We know exactly what we are and if we can be better then that.
For instance I can be satisfied financially with the lesser paid job, which still will get me through the daily life. No fringes, but quite enough. Or I can also take lesser paid job because it will give me satisfaction in other ways, like make me feel better about myself. If I feel good enough of myself already, I would most likely find a job that will satisfy a bit more of my needs, maybe a little bit of my wishes on top of necessities (which could be different, do you agree?).
Now, how do I access myself in this respect: do I deserve to have my dreams fulfilled? Yes, I believe I do. But: do I deserve that someone comes along and fulfil them for me? I doubt. No one owns me anything, but me. I’m worthy my dreams, but it is only transpired when I do something to make my dreams true. Our efforts are the measures of our worthiness. And in that sense it is the most just and fair metrics. If I know that I can do better, I shouldn't sit and sigh that the world is unfair. I should really get up and do better. When I satisfied with myself, I will be more satisfied with the world too.
* People of Faith always judge those of other Faiths, even though the stonebased principles of any religion astonishingly similar, but they just compare each other's formalities, which, btw have been invented by humans, not by Gods.
** You can say it is just and fair to liberate Iraqi people from the terror of Saddam then go and ask Iraqi’s mom if that’s fair to bring up her child among the bomb explosions. And both will be right, of course.
We do also have an idea of our own worthiness. Not as in “I deserve to be a millionaire” but as in “I deserve to be as happy as I wish to be, as clever as I think I should be, as respected, as loved as I believe I have all qualities for this”. In a sense of self-assessed worthiness we always fair and just. We know exactly what we are and if we can be better then that.
For instance I can be satisfied financially with the lesser paid job, which still will get me through the daily life. No fringes, but quite enough. Or I can also take lesser paid job because it will give me satisfaction in other ways, like make me feel better about myself. If I feel good enough of myself already, I would most likely find a job that will satisfy a bit more of my needs, maybe a little bit of my wishes on top of necessities (which could be different, do you agree?).
Now, how do I access myself in this respect: do I deserve to have my dreams fulfilled? Yes, I believe I do. But: do I deserve that someone comes along and fulfil them for me? I doubt. No one owns me anything, but me. I’m worthy my dreams, but it is only transpired when I do something to make my dreams true. Our efforts are the measures of our worthiness. And in that sense it is the most just and fair metrics. If I know that I can do better, I shouldn't sit and sigh that the world is unfair. I should really get up and do better. When I satisfied with myself, I will be more satisfied with the world too.
* People of Faith always judge those of other Faiths, even though the stonebased principles of any religion astonishingly similar, but they just compare each other's formalities, which, btw have been invented by humans, not by Gods.
** You can say it is just and fair to liberate Iraqi people from the terror of Saddam then go and ask Iraqi’s mom if that’s fair to bring up her child among the bomb explosions. And both will be right, of course.