Collective DD Cry Session (everybody welcome)
Mon Apr 03 2006

I thought of those moments, that happened from time to time…when you wish you can curl somewhere with a pack of tissues and just cry a little while for anything you can think of. This must be a very girly thing. Girls cry often. They don’t need a reason. We can cry just because we feel blue, or we feel lonely, or irrelevant or not needed…we cry just for the reason we are girls.

So I’m inviting all the girls who feel like crying to my place for a little bit of Cry-Time. Sometimes we don’t need to tell others the reason, sometimes we don’t want anybody to comfort us, really. We just want to cry it out. Tears as the means of letting go of your worries, yearnings, for unhappened miracles, for the wishes that didn’t come true. Tears for the unfairness that happened, of misjudgement being done, for possible and impossible dreams that disappeared…for those who cared too much and for those who didn’t care at all…tears for being unfortunate to be born a woman and see the world in special women’s way, which no man can understand. But we do, don’t we? We do understand that when woman cries, she does it for a reason. Women’s tears never irrelevant. So come and cry with me even if just “for the company”. There is always extra box of tissues. 

*University of Minnesota researchers who are studying the chemical composition of tears have isolated two important chemicals, leucine-enkephalin and prolactin, in emotionally shed tears. The researchers say that leucine-enkephalin may be an endorphin, one of the natural pain relievers released by the brain in response to stress. William Frey, Ph.D., a biochemist and the leader of the research team, suspects that tears cleanse the body of substances that accumulate under stress. In other words, crying seems to be an appropriate way to respond to stress. Conversely, to resist crying may be harmful to your health. It's possible that men develop more stress-related illness because they don't cry as freely as women do.
So if you feel like crying, let the tears flow.
10 Comments
  • From:
    DowntownMom (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 03 2006
    Boy...is everyone crying like I am lately?

    I cried in the shower yesterday...a really good deep cry...then a little one on the way to work today.

    So now I am here to cry some more :(
  • From:
    Jagged (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 03 2006
    I must admit, I've never been much of a crier, but I'll join you today. Here's to the lost and the found, the obscure and the obvious, the remembered and the forgotten, the mistaken and the accurate.
  • From:
    StillLife (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 03 2006
    How appropriate. Last night I entered what I think is the final stage of acceptance of a future inevitable loss that I know is right, but that is still bloody hard to accept. I've been doing ok, letting a few tears roll this morning, but generally reining them in because well, it's inevitable, and it's also the right thing to let go of what I cannot and should not have (oh dear, I said the "should" word again).

    But tyvfm (ahem) I am now sitting here on the floor with my laptop all snot nosed and face screwed up - releasing my grief/stress-healing endorphins, I suppose.

    Do you have tea? I need a nice pot of tea...
  • From:
    Supertrooper (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 03 2006
    I was just dripping big tears myself this morning ...I am ok ...just something sad and very romantic made me weep .
    I am such a big cry baby ..always was ..must be my girly hormones . I am proud of my tears though ..they show my heart .
    I am glad to share them here with you today .

    Pass the tissues ..sniff .

    Please tell Still Life I brought us all a nice cup of hot tea ..one of lifes best antidotes eh Miss Tick .

    Hugs

    L x
  • From:
    Bubbles1956 (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 03 2006
    When I was a little girl my mother hated it when I cried...we were basically not allowed to cry. Now as a grown up..it is difficult for me to cry, I do cry and boy does it release stress, but I don't cry as much as I probably should or want to.
  • From:
    Renewal (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 03 2006
    Where were you last week when I really, really needed and did have several good crying sessions over my son.... I’ll pass on crying today, but thanks for the invite. Also, this made me think of a good cry I had in December where I just sat down on the curb, outside, in the rain and sobbed and sobbed. Felt so much better! Thanks for sharing.

    Jaylene
  • From:
    StillLife (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 03 2006
    Thanks for your comment. Thought provoking as always.

    "If we would greave our future losses, we will have no joy in present." Hmmmm. I both agree and disagree with your comment. There is absolutley no sense grieving now what isn't now, and may not come.

    Except that it will, at least on one level. AND, most importantly I have long recognised my need to let go to "lose" that which I most long to hold on to at this point in my life. It's necessary for my growth. It's necessary for my becoming "me" and not stagnating in the comfort zone of that which keeps me most secure and happy. It's necessary for me to let go and to grieve the letting go in the now so that I can let go of that future and be in the now.

    Now I am the one not making sense... lol

    As for "deserving" - I think that is as bad a word as "should". Deserving is based on justice and fairness and I don't believe the world is just or fair.

    Anyhow, I have had a good cry and an excellent cuddle and a lovely snoozle, and I feel much better. My face unscrewed itself when it was ready. I just needed to feel that for a while, and I am sure it was piggybacking on what is just a bit of an emotional day.

    Is that coffee I smell?
  • From:
    Windchimes (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Apr 03 2006
    i do believe crying is healthy so long as it is not incessant for weeks. lol. i do know that allowing babies to cry in the morning is a good exercise for their lungs. crying also cleanses that 'within' to free us from emotional cobwebs and stresses. crying is normal especially for women. rarely have i seen a real man cry, but when he does, i know there's just too much welling up from within him and most times the reason is so touching it can melt a woman's heart.

    i have cried so much in my life. it is a release. and even if the tear ducts have dried, i know the heart never will, so long as there is that spot from within that is touchable by emotions.

    :D
  • From:
    Astrid04 (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Apr 04 2006
    I have cried more than a few tears in my life. I still do, but it's usually when I'm alone with my thoughts. It is definitely a good release.

    Astrid~
  • From:
    Dreamerbooks2003 (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Apr 06 2006
    You know I just can't cry on que
    I cry at all the wrong times.
    but never just when I want to
    Crying is so strange..
    it may be a chemical response to stress.. but it is totally out of my control....
    I broke out and just sobbed when my daughter walked down the isle..*totally unexpected...
    and other times.. when you would think I should cry.. i just go into a locked up mode and stuff it.. I guess..
    ??
    why you feel the tears??