Trusts
Sun Jan 21 2007

Sometimes a thought occurs this way…you’d think of something and arrive to the point when you really like the thought and consider her to have a deep meaning…and you leave her at that, having decide there is nothing more to it. She is complete and perfect. And only afterwards, unprepared, you suddenly find yourself thinking of the same again, refining the meaning more, far away from perfection still…unsatisfaction forces us to go over the same again and again, mule the single thought in all ways possible, until we find another expression to her…better to our eyes…and yet it is not completed…and it will never be…and I think, this is because we learned not to trust our own judgment on correctness of our ideas. We have to run them over by others so that we can either gain that certainty or see with the other’s help where we’ve made mistake in judgements …

ok, long intro, but I felt I needed to print it out loud mostly to convince myself that what I say now is not a mind changing, but different take on the same thought…

It is never a simple question if one trusts another. There are different levels of trust between humans.
Trust to let another know of the intimate details of your life
Trust to let them see you in the morning hairdo, with no make up and prominent imprint of the pillow on your cheek
Trust to show them your wrinkles and tell them how much you weight
Trust to let them see your red eyes and puffed face from crying and in your silly moments, even if it was them who made you cry or put you in embarassing situation 
Trust to share yours or somebody else’s secrets
Trust to share your very sacred thoughts
Trust to share your daring dreams
Trust to let them be aware of what they mean to you.
Any trust means to give away something. To make yourself vulnerable. When although you don’t know what they going to do with the entrusted to them, you still sure they will not use it against you or for their own benefits. You TRUST IN THEIR LOYALTY. Does it need to be mutual trust? Not necessary. Trust is very personal emotion. We trust different people on different level and for each relationship we find the level of trust required for the balance…to think of it…how many couples can say there is complete trust between them? Yet they can be a very happy couple. How many friends can feel totally secure yet there are things they never share with each other. And if you’d take lovers, there is even less they might feel the need in sharing…the level of trust depends on the level of needs…and this calls for the question: 

What level of trust you think is the most complete? What makes us the most vulnerable to another? Which trust is the most difficult to gain?
6 Comments
  • From:
    Pragmatist (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Jan 22 2007
    There is no one in my life now whom I completely trust. And I find I don't need that level of trust any more.

    What I want in my friends now is dependability.

    I am a vessel holding many secrets of other people. People confide in my and my lips are sealed. I guess I have a trustworthy face. Eh?

    Shalom
  • From:
    Razzenne (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Jan 22 2007
    beautiful svetlana
    I must be a control freak
    I strive to know everything about people hee hee
    especially kids adults too but kids I love to ride their thoughts and feelings
    that is the real person how they think and feel
  • From:
    Razzenne (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Jan 22 2007
    this is beautiful philosophy my friend
  • From:
    Razzenne (Legacy)
    On:
    Mon Jan 22 2007
    actually here is something further


    I think if you really present yourself honestly to people and think the best of everyone and yourself then trust just comes naturally

    however ofcourse in some extreme situations where you can be held libel for certain information or situations or if you are dealing with a very unstable person that has a lot of power to hurt you well then that is different
  • From:
    Dreamerbooks2003 (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jan 23 2007
    one of my core issues.. Oh that word.. issues..
    problems.. Yeah.. I like that better.. I have a problem with trust.. Think is has to do with living over and over again chapters of childhood .. where my trust was broken.. imagined of factual.. matters not.. I percieved it to be .. and so.. it made that impression
    now I don't trust many people.. but I am brutally honest.. so I am not sure where I am going with this.. other than to say.. I trust you to always give me something more to think about.. and also to bring a smile to my face..
    you are a wonderful trustworthy diarist..
    and more

  • From:
    Razzenne (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jan 23 2007
    and here is something further-
    I have never really written on trust per se
    but really when you consider its underlying meaning it must mean that you believe that the other person will not hurt you
    whether it is telling your secrets or stealing your boyfriend the list is long or coming to visit you when you are sick anything really
    and the point is you cant control what other people are going to say or do to you or anyone else
    and when they do hurt you well you can call it betrayal of trust so be it they have lost a friend but that is silly
    it is freedom of action and every human being has that choice

    also I feel that if someone has really hurt me I have no problem forgiving them because I view it as mental illness
    a psychologically sane person does not hurt others outside of normal boundaries
    when I hear people complain I trusted him or her I think it is absurd because that is human nature and freedom of choice and you always have the option to leave but you cant tell other people how to behave
    well marriage contracts do and obviously it doesnt work
    and I think it is mentally unhealthy to go around worrying about that people may hurt you
    if it happens it happens then you are no longer friends
    it is like all philosophy you have to define the terminology.

    well that's it