Today we woke up to the SNOW! Yep, the real snow and it was like a “good” snow, as opposed to wet and melty one. As I was grabbing it in huge piles off the roof of my car and it was like playing snowballs, like in childhood, I thought of getting to work and building a snowman and having true celebration of some resemblance of the winter. (we didn’t have snow in this place for at least two years now!) As I was driving towards Oxford, the landscape became more gloomy, the fresh whites off the fields turned into grey-ish shade, like unwashed t-shirt of teenager and of course there was no sign of snow around the office at all! What a pity – my snowman dream didn’t come true…but guess, this is life: fairy tales never stay for long enough to enjoy them fully…
In addition to my previous musings about Trust…I’ve been thinking and then thinking more…and I think now that I have to agree with the comment about our own responsibility for our own trust. It is true that we do our judgement on what to trust and to whom. We can not possibly know if our judgement is adequate. People do what they do. Instead of sulking at someone that I trusted and they betrayed my trust, I should be really asking myself: have I imposed my trust onto someone, who might never need such a burden? If I make a decision to trust, then I should take the responsibility for consequences.
The whole other issue – when we opened to the others, do we expect them to be same opened back? Or do we share out without a need to share in?
More and more it looks like in most cases we trust our secrets to those who we think might give us positive reaction. When share out, we expect a feedback which allows us to share more…or to share less if the feedback is not what we expected. Strange thing it is –sharing, eh?
In addition to my previous musings about Trust…I’ve been thinking and then thinking more…and I think now that I have to agree with the comment about our own responsibility for our own trust. It is true that we do our judgement on what to trust and to whom. We can not possibly know if our judgement is adequate. People do what they do. Instead of sulking at someone that I trusted and they betrayed my trust, I should be really asking myself: have I imposed my trust onto someone, who might never need such a burden? If I make a decision to trust, then I should take the responsibility for consequences.
The whole other issue – when we opened to the others, do we expect them to be same opened back? Or do we share out without a need to share in?
More and more it looks like in most cases we trust our secrets to those who we think might give us positive reaction. When share out, we expect a feedback which allows us to share more…or to share less if the feedback is not what we expected. Strange thing it is –sharing, eh?