A friend reconnected after a couple of years of out-of-touch...
After a catch-up talk he mentioned You've moved on in such a tremendous way…I said: I feel the same too. It is somewhat odd how I am almost grateful for the “fire&brimstone” experience I was thrown into, as I now can see it so clearly that the life I had “before” was lacking so many things. And I mean not tangible things, but sensations and acceptances. I used to have such a low self-esteem that I’m amazed now how did I ever managed to go on on that. If I’m asked to describe my current state of mind in the shortest way possible, I would say: it is a reassuring sense of being in all the right places and doing all the right things. Amazing how an absence of regrets and hesitations changes your quality of life. If nothing else would’ve been gained, I still would consider this state being worth all the pain to get there...
...Don’t get me wrong, I do have my “highs” and “lows”. But to be honest, they are not felt even a fraction of the “LOW” that I have been in the beginning of this hardest journey of my life. Ask me would I go through this again and I would scream across the ocean NEVER! It might’ve been just my pure luck that I have managed to do it “right way”. Who knows… But whatever reasons there are, I’m here and now and the main thing I have learned and learned it well. Never look back to count your mistakes and never look far ahead into the future. This is what keeps me on top of the things, I made it into my motto: no Past and no Future, I have only the Present to deal with. And it works, trust me, it does...
...Yes, at times we all get that sense of being overwhelmed with life's challenges. What helps me to get through the “trying” moments is that every time when I feel like the world comes crushing on me, I say to myself: This Too Shall Pass. Oh The Wise Man Mr Solomon, how grateful I am for these simple words of wisdom! It is truly, just one moment of your life, the next one will be better then that. Unless, of course, you will let it to be worse. ;-)...
...Do not count your mistakes. Often people refer to their past negatively. They consider choices they made being mistakes. These are NOT the mistakes. All is a Learning Experience. Ask yourself: would you do the same if given a chance to go back in time to the point when you made your choices? And if your answer is firm NO, then it means – you have learned your lesson. And that’s why you do not get to experience the same again and again. The thing is, life always presents us with the choice and it is us who picks one of many, intentionally or pure subconsiously. So really, instead of thinking back “oh, I made a mistake” you should be thinking more along the lines of “from all the choices I had at that time I didn’t pick the best one”...
...There is never The Only Choice, even when it seems like we have no other. One of the useful exercises in any problem solving is finding as many choices as possible, no matter how ridiculous or poor they might seem. By doing that you will understand that every situation does have plenty of choices to resolve it. it is just our mind tends to pick only the ones our logic approves. But there are MANY choices out there and if you’d let your mind to take a look at as many of them as it only can, you might be surprised how this simple train of thoughts will take you to the best solution station. And what is the best solution to any problem? – The one that makes YOU feel good. And I mean – really good in every sense...