To me this is pretty straightforward: I do not make promises which I am not sure I can keep. I used to think that is the same for everyone. Well, at least the ones I’ve learned to trust more or less. But my experience seems to disagree with this concept more and more and I found myself becoming way too sceptical about things people say they’ll do. Promises mean little and that’s a general rule. There are some exceptions. Too insignificant to make me change my perception. Why do we do that? Why do we give another a hope when we do not have it ourselves? Isn’t it better simply not to say a thing. I’ve learned not to pay attention to promises. If your sentence starts with “one day...” or “I promise...”, it triggers reaction: I become deaf to the rest of it. Seriously. I prefer not to have hopes than to see them crashing. Find your own way. And I did. And I’m still at the same place where I’ve always been. I will keep this in mind till the opportunity comes. And she never did. Or the mind was incapable to keep. Things will change and I’ll be back on track. And they do change, but the track takes different direction. I’m tired of empty promises. I do not entertain myself with them anymore. And I prefer the others won't as well. I do not wish to hear what can be. I want to know what will be. give me that certainty in your voice when you say that and I'll hear you. My hopes are dying painfully slow and at times I wish they’d be dead already. The wound is never healed, isn’t this the ugly truth we all know but afraid to talk of? I promise only what I’m sure of. Is that a lot to ask of others too? This was not the question.
MissTick
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- From:Yetzirah (Legacy)On:Wed Aug 14 2013Oh, I have sympathy for your viewpoint. When my kids were young, I got into the habit of NOT making promises, because I found that life had a way of throwing monkey wrenches in plans all the time. So I would say, "If all goes well, we will do such and such…" or "I'll do my best to make that happen." Bottom line was that I wanted my children to trust me that I was doing my best, but I could not promise them. I HATE it how often in movies, adults make solemn promises to children. I want to scream… Don't DO that! :-) So, yeah. I really GET what you are saying. Hug