Today I’m going to talk about that TV show that I’ve started to watch on Channel4. But before that I should warn you – this is a talk about women’s sensuality and sex drive and other things of such nature. No dirty jokes, but maybe some facts, some may find embarrassing to read…so if you feel this is not your cup of tea, stop reading now :-)
When I mentioned this show in my previous entry, I was surprised at some comments made in private and anonymous mode…it is not a prudence issue, but more of the personal limits we put on ourselves…I am not going to appeal to all ladies to drop their boundaries and come out into open with their fears, preferences, morals and tastes…no, don’t do that please – this is a public domain after all…;-. I’m merely thinking aloud on the topic which created a pile of thoughts and emotions in my head…
I know, for the modern generation sex is not an issue at all…and they would probably be laughing madly on the topic I’m trying to discuss…but I’m not a young modern girl and though I have no issues with any form of sex discussion, I am aware of the limits of my generation and the ones before that…So I’m going to speak from perspective of my age here, bear that in mind…
I remember now a story that happened with me in real life…story that impressed me back then…I was much younger then, married, normal family life, no problems on the intimate side…all the experimenting has been done by then, I did had fair share of testing things new to me…some shocked me deeply and “never try it again”, others came into enjoyable habit since…I’ve been visiting my aunt, who was just about 10 years older then me, married also…and I can’t remember the occasion, but in one of those girly sleep over nights, we talked, something intimate was mentioned and suddenly she said to me: “you know, I envy you that you feel so free in this respect…that you can talk about it, that you can try things I never imagined physically possible…” and then she reveal to me that even after having two children, she still can’t go to bed naked, can’t make love with the lights on and can’t tell her hb what she’d like…it was just such a strong taboo, that even while she wanted to talk about it so badly, her tongue stuck on the words… other then that, she was a happily married woman with lovely kids and caring husband… which doesn’t mean that she was not sensual, that she was prudent or too religious or anything…is was just the culture she’s been brought up in...
From the society point of view the stronger morale is, the healthier the society…and in a way, this is true…no adultery, sex is a deadly sin, no sexually transmitted diseases, no troubles, and nobody cares about pleasure – the society cares only about reproduction of new members to benefit itself. And a healthy family with the mission statement of concentrating on upbringing the youth is the best way of achieving this…this has no problems with me. I’m all for the healthy families, kids that have both parents, stable environment, etc etc…what bothers me however, that little understanding is there for the differences between male and female members of such society…of their obvious anatomical differences as well as corresponding mental ones…all are equal, all are parts of single mechanism, a reproductive conveyer for creating workers that will create more workers for future needs…
Yesterday I watched next of the educational program on TV featuring research on how women’s sexual desire differs from that of a men…its no secret that we choose our partners based on the ancient instinct of “multiplying”. But just how this works in our bodies, why we tend to pick up certain type more often then the other type? What are the differences in the process for male and female?...the program was a revelation in picking underneath the veil…and while it was just a populist show, the questions asked and simple experiments conducted have such a striking result…something like “YouAlwaysSuspectedButWereNeverSure” kind…
Oh god, I’ve written so much already and this was just the attempt to explain what I’m getting at…LOL…I’ve got some work to do…guess, I will need to write more later…