Judge not, that you be not judged.
For with what judgment you judge,
You will be judged
Lots of thoughts on judgment today. Not Judgment as in law, but - when we make some perceptions about things and fellow individuals. We judge according to our own internal law. More then that – we assume that everyone should have the same laws to follow. But everyone has it different The trick is - not to impose your law onto others. And this one is difficult. Misunderstanding, heated battlefields, silent sulking in different corners – so many things that shouldn’t happened, do happen when we judge others by our laws.
Sometimes even a simple wish to give your friend some support makes you twist around your viewpoint to accommodate sympathy. And it's not like - you lied to them, but when you’d think of it, it does seems to me that in trying to comfort them, I've been trying to convince myself in the truth of my own lies. When judging people I can't help but put myself into another's boots. How would I feel, what would I want to hear from a friend, etc…Generally I intend to feel sorry even for those, who were wrong in my opinion…I don't think this is right - sometimes people need to be told the truth. But how to do this? I feel terrible if I need to point someone on their wrongs - as if it was my own fault. Weird, huh?
What am I doing by being too sympathetic: encouraging to do even more wrongs? Or - helping friends in their hard moments? I wish I could be same critical about people like I am - about myself. And I wish I can just say it how it is, not softening the unpleasant truth for anybody. In the end of a day it feels like it is me who’s taking all the blame for anybody else’s sins that I’ve never had a courage to point out…
For with what judgment you judge,
You will be judged
Lots of thoughts on judgment today. Not Judgment as in law, but - when we make some perceptions about things and fellow individuals. We judge according to our own internal law. More then that – we assume that everyone should have the same laws to follow. But everyone has it different The trick is - not to impose your law onto others. And this one is difficult. Misunderstanding, heated battlefields, silent sulking in different corners – so many things that shouldn’t happened, do happen when we judge others by our laws.
Sometimes even a simple wish to give your friend some support makes you twist around your viewpoint to accommodate sympathy. And it's not like - you lied to them, but when you’d think of it, it does seems to me that in trying to comfort them, I've been trying to convince myself in the truth of my own lies. When judging people I can't help but put myself into another's boots. How would I feel, what would I want to hear from a friend, etc…Generally I intend to feel sorry even for those, who were wrong in my opinion…I don't think this is right - sometimes people need to be told the truth. But how to do this? I feel terrible if I need to point someone on their wrongs - as if it was my own fault. Weird, huh?
What am I doing by being too sympathetic: encouraging to do even more wrongs? Or - helping friends in their hard moments? I wish I could be same critical about people like I am - about myself. And I wish I can just say it how it is, not softening the unpleasant truth for anybody. In the end of a day it feels like it is me who’s taking all the blame for anybody else’s sins that I’ve never had a courage to point out…