Yesterday I forgot to write about one more thing. Courage. I really did mean it and actually, this was the reason I’ve got out of my shelf, to say it…somehow I’ve got carried away with my own issues&thoughs…
So Courage. Do not be afraid to change your life. Sometimes we hesitate and dwell too long only because the change means something we not used to. Most of the changes come when we most need them. The time of doubts, worries, even fears are natural to such events for we are essentially being taken out of our zone of comfort. I say: do not fear. If you feel you have to change something in your life – do it.
Now, some might say: I never hesitated and it always screwed my life. This is not the change I’m talking about. One can attempt to change their life lead by their instant need for pleasure. Whether it’ll be getting other place to live, other work with more money, other partner, pet, whatever. All these are changes we make following our build-in greed for the “better then we have” things. These could turn out dramatic, only because once we’ve got there, we immediately start to wish for something else. We’d get what we wanted, but the greed is still there. We haven’t changed.
The different is the change within yourself. The one that makes you feel yourself a better person. Makes you to respect yourself for being able to tame your destiny and resist an instant wants, if they are not useful to your path. Sometimes this change required more subjective changes within your reality. And that is the most hard thing to go along with. You might feel that by making a dramatic decision you might loose whatever you’ve got so far…in fact, if you are brave enough to actually do it, the chances are – you will feel better, even if you’ll end up with what for now you see as loss.
Think carefully, what is it that you afraid to loose? Is it another’s love? I’d say – they do not love enough if it makes you feel insecure. Or is it your own love for another? Think again. We only afraid to loose something when we never had it in the first place. If we truly love, we are able to let go.
I never say it is easy. But I am saying: it could be done. If you have the courage to stop giving your life away for the convenience of the others and start loving yourself enough to know just how much love you deserve. We get what we want at a price of how we define our own worthiness. And if you’d settle for the lesser, who would bother to give you more then that?
One more little thing: if it feels wrong and makes you feel miserable, it more likely is wrong and you should have better then that. For we should only have what makes us happy and content. Learn to be confident in what you deserve. And teach the others to treat you respectively.
So Courage. Do not be afraid to change your life. Sometimes we hesitate and dwell too long only because the change means something we not used to. Most of the changes come when we most need them. The time of doubts, worries, even fears are natural to such events for we are essentially being taken out of our zone of comfort. I say: do not fear. If you feel you have to change something in your life – do it.
Now, some might say: I never hesitated and it always screwed my life. This is not the change I’m talking about. One can attempt to change their life lead by their instant need for pleasure. Whether it’ll be getting other place to live, other work with more money, other partner, pet, whatever. All these are changes we make following our build-in greed for the “better then we have” things. These could turn out dramatic, only because once we’ve got there, we immediately start to wish for something else. We’d get what we wanted, but the greed is still there. We haven’t changed.
The different is the change within yourself. The one that makes you feel yourself a better person. Makes you to respect yourself for being able to tame your destiny and resist an instant wants, if they are not useful to your path. Sometimes this change required more subjective changes within your reality. And that is the most hard thing to go along with. You might feel that by making a dramatic decision you might loose whatever you’ve got so far…in fact, if you are brave enough to actually do it, the chances are – you will feel better, even if you’ll end up with what for now you see as loss.
Think carefully, what is it that you afraid to loose? Is it another’s love? I’d say – they do not love enough if it makes you feel insecure. Or is it your own love for another? Think again. We only afraid to loose something when we never had it in the first place. If we truly love, we are able to let go.
I never say it is easy. But I am saying: it could be done. If you have the courage to stop giving your life away for the convenience of the others and start loving yourself enough to know just how much love you deserve. We get what we want at a price of how we define our own worthiness. And if you’d settle for the lesser, who would bother to give you more then that?
One more little thing: if it feels wrong and makes you feel miserable, it more likely is wrong and you should have better then that. For we should only have what makes us happy and content. Learn to be confident in what you deserve. And teach the others to treat you respectively.