There are different reasons for people to share less then they are able to. Shyness undoubtedly is one of them. However, I wouldn’t call shy person greedy, for the greed and the shyness are ruled by different needs.
Say, one wants to have…most of our wants are based on self-assumption that we worth it, whatever we want, right? We believe we deserve something, we want it, we get it, we want more of it because we think we can take more. That’s greed. Remember the saying: when you can’t have what you want, learn to want what you have. It is a problem of human beings – we never know when to stop. Now this might be not a bad thing at all, sometimes we want more and we get more, all the while without taking it away from someone else. Is that greed? When I want to have more friends, should people call me greedy?
The other side of it when we do have a lot already, but we don’t share it out. Again, there are so many reasons why we are so possessive. We know the classical ones…if I have some money, but won’t give a change to the beggar, that’s greed, right? I might do it for various reasons: I don’t consider I’ve got a lot; I think he doesn’t deserve it; I am overcautious, etc. Still I do not give to those who are in need, therefore I’m greedy.
Now, how about if I’ve got a lot of love and keep it to myself? There aren’t many variations to why I do it. In fact there could be just one single answer to this, methinks. We do not know the real price of what we’ve got. Loving is so natural to us, we don’t consider it to be something of a value to the others. How can you possibly measure a smile, a laugh, a love?
My personal opinion: if somebody would say to me: I’ve got so much love, but I won’t let you have it until you love me back…that’s not love in my books. If somebody would only respond in kindness to the kind, that’s not love to me. If somebody shares their dream to be loved in any particular way, that is not what I would call love. Love should be without expectations. Period. That's why love is so difficult, not many realise that other can only love us their way, not our way.
Now what to do if the person is too shy to give to their potential? This is different from conditional love, isn’t it? It is not that they want to keep something to themselves because they are greedy. They simply don’t see their love as something anyone might need… for them their love is the same as their breath, their smile, their laugh and their tears – it’s “free”, so to speak, it costs them nothing, to love for them is to live. Shy person doesn’t understand how such a natural thing could mean something to another. The “priceless” gets a different meaning to the shy person. It is almost like unwanted Christmas gift – sensible people do not clutter houses with things that can’t be used. For shy person to give they have to believe in themselves. To see their love as something more then breath of air. To value what they’ve got and to trust others value it as well. The irony is shy people never know their true value because they never ask.
Say, one wants to have…most of our wants are based on self-assumption that we worth it, whatever we want, right? We believe we deserve something, we want it, we get it, we want more of it because we think we can take more. That’s greed. Remember the saying: when you can’t have what you want, learn to want what you have. It is a problem of human beings – we never know when to stop. Now this might be not a bad thing at all, sometimes we want more and we get more, all the while without taking it away from someone else. Is that greed? When I want to have more friends, should people call me greedy?
The other side of it when we do have a lot already, but we don’t share it out. Again, there are so many reasons why we are so possessive. We know the classical ones…if I have some money, but won’t give a change to the beggar, that’s greed, right? I might do it for various reasons: I don’t consider I’ve got a lot; I think he doesn’t deserve it; I am overcautious, etc. Still I do not give to those who are in need, therefore I’m greedy.
Now, how about if I’ve got a lot of love and keep it to myself? There aren’t many variations to why I do it. In fact there could be just one single answer to this, methinks. We do not know the real price of what we’ve got. Loving is so natural to us, we don’t consider it to be something of a value to the others. How can you possibly measure a smile, a laugh, a love?
My personal opinion: if somebody would say to me: I’ve got so much love, but I won’t let you have it until you love me back…that’s not love in my books. If somebody would only respond in kindness to the kind, that’s not love to me. If somebody shares their dream to be loved in any particular way, that is not what I would call love. Love should be without expectations. Period. That's why love is so difficult, not many realise that other can only love us their way, not our way.
Now what to do if the person is too shy to give to their potential? This is different from conditional love, isn’t it? It is not that they want to keep something to themselves because they are greedy. They simply don’t see their love as something anyone might need… for them their love is the same as their breath, their smile, their laugh and their tears – it’s “free”, so to speak, it costs them nothing, to love for them is to live. Shy person doesn’t understand how such a natural thing could mean something to another. The “priceless” gets a different meaning to the shy person. It is almost like unwanted Christmas gift – sensible people do not clutter houses with things that can’t be used. For shy person to give they have to believe in themselves. To see their love as something more then breath of air. To value what they’ve got and to trust others value it as well. The irony is shy people never know their true value because they never ask.