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Yetzirah

Forget About It
Wed Jul 14 2004


Four bananas sit and overipen on my kitchen counter this morning. They are spreading a sicky sweet smell all over. I will have to make a decision soon concerning their fate. Bread? Freeze them to make banana pancakes? What else can you do with overipe bananas? Rather than grapple with this existential conundrum, I wandered out into the back yard, where things are generally less complicated.

I sat down in the swing, to admire the garden. Although it is hard not to see things that need to be done. It makes one figity. And I finally had to get up and give the creeping thyme that is growing in a planter, a haircut. Seems some lazy gardener forgot to water them a few weeks ago and they have crispy dead areas here and there from that traumatic experience. Funny thing is that they keep growing green down under. So I went in and got the scissors and hacked away. Of course that led to pulling a few weeds and snapping the spent marigold blossoms in the planter next to the thyme. I still smell of tangy marigold scent because of it. Then I had to clean up my clippings and decided the patio should be sprayed off and some more dead flowers removed from one of the raised beds.

But all I started out to do was to sit in my garden swing and admire my Forget-Me-Nots. I consider it a minor miracle that I get to do so.

I have been gardening for 31 years. On and off in all those years I have tried to grow Forget-Me-Nots. And in all that time, they would never grow. I even bought plants one year, which upon being lovingly transplanted into my yard, promptly died. I kept buying seed and tried sowing it direct into the beds, or starting them in pots indoors.
Nothing worked.

Now I have developed a rather promiscuous philosophy of gardening. I gather lots of seeds from all over. And I scatter them far and wide in my garden, in no particular order. I gave up on order somewhere back in 1983. If a plant comes up volunteer in my garden, 9 times out of 10 I let it grow where it stands. I think I adopted this technique because it came home to me at some point quite forcefully, that this is just one season. This year's failures might be next year's success. So no use to get all bothered if the gladiolus develop thrips. Next year they will be better. Or they will die. And some other plant will take their place that has more of a will to live. I favor the plants that seem to WANT to grow, not the ones that have to be coaxed overmuch.

Now this does not mean I don't WORK out there. Far from it. But I have just given up the notion that *I* am in charge. The only thing I am supposed to do is pull weeds, provide water, and plant seeds. Lots of seeds. And then get out of the way.

The people who plant Mickey Mouse faces in a formal flower bed would consider me a leper. Ahhhh! get her away from my beds! She's going to let that sunflower plant grow, right in the middle of Mickey's left eyeball! Escort her to the Exit! . . . In the meantime, somebody would be pulling up a perfectly good sunflower plant. I have a very very soft spot for volunteer plants. They are usually the hardiest and best of their kind. They just don't always decide to grow in the most ascetically pleasing places.

Anyway, back to my story. This year, from someplace I cannot remember, I came into the possession of a packet of Forget-Me-Not seeds. I don't remember buying them. But there they were in my seed basket this spring. When I was finished planting vegetables and bedding plants this year, I took out my flower seeds, got a little bowl and dumped them all in there together. I marched out to my prepared flower beds and scattered seeds like I was planting wheat. Somewhere in that mix, were the Forget-Me-Nots.

I now have a huge array of wildflowers and domestic varieties all growing in a cottage jungle style back there. They are beautiful. A few weeks ago, I noticed a plant coming up at the end of one of the raised beds right near where I had potatoes growing earlier. It looked a bit like a Purple Cone Flower to me, but I wasn't sure. Then one day the plant started to send up spikes. And lo and behold, there they were. Forget-Me-Nots. Sweet little deep blue flowers budding all over the place.

My cavalier gardening technique is vindicated.

And just think. It only took 31 years!

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13 Comments
  • From:
    Dustbunny3 (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    Seeds are funny that way,you just never know be it mind or soil. Life is much the same be it a hug the seed must be planted and some times it takes more than 31 years to take.
  • From:
    MagicWhiskey (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    I vote for Banana bread. Even though there is no poll, I vote anyway. I like the smell as it bakes a lot more than I like the bread itself though. But bread. Definitely bread then again I got to the bakery just for the smell.
  • From:
    Allimom (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    Toss them into a blender with some ice, skim milk and berries (or other fruit of your choosing) and have smoothies!

    Or... do you have an ice cream maker, chocolate syrup, strawberries, pineapple and some maraschino cherries? Make Banana Split ice cream!
    Alli
  • From:
    Fairywishes (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    what a great technique!

    x
  • From:
    ImNotLisa (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    One thing leads to another when you step into a garden. That's the peaceful thing about it though, the sense of accomplishment when you can enjoy the things growing around you.
  • From:
    RealmOfRachel (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    A lesson in patience indeed as well as a sorely needed good laugh for me about the part about Mickey's eyeball. Do such gardeners really exist? No don't tell me I'd like to savour the delicious image of a gung ho swat force of green thumbed people a little longer...

    Hugs
    Rachel xxx
  • From:
    Ichandra (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    what a beautiful entry mon amie and i think we are meant to learn from this nature doesnt come in neat little regimented rows i was just reminded of that this week when part of the roof of one of the biggest malls in the world in my city flew off in a tornado related storm ha ha nature is in chaos and violent and that probably is the most beautiful part of life why do i feel right now that someone is going to have me incarcerated
    oh god mon amie im such a perv
    you are a beautiful writer yetzirah yesterdays peice had me totally charmed
    when will we meet again in thunder lightning or in rain when the hurly burlys down when the battles lost and won
  • From:
    Pragmatist (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    Well, you just never know what's gonna happen when you walk out that back door.

    Maybe next year I'll try the sweet peas again.

    There's something about doing something before you can accomplish what you originally intended to do--like weeding, but then there are flowers that need dead-heading, and then there's something else--and the weeds are still theren daring you to do something about them.

    But first, relaxing in the swing.

    Shalom
  • From:
    AQuietEvening (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    Oh, but I long to see more of the garden, that one little picture made me wonder how big the box is and how many there are and...and... and...

    And...I just peeled and froze some very dark bananas last week. Then this week when I was just sure I needed to forgo the diet and head to dairy queen. I pulled out a frozen banana and thought I was eating the most heavenly thing on earth...yummm. I'd never eaten a frozen banana not dipped in chocolate. To think they can actually be eaten that way. Hmmmm....

    ~QE
  • From:
    InStitches (Legacy)
    On:
    Tue Jul 13 2004
    "I favor the plants that seem to WANT to grow, not the ones that have to be coaxed overmuch."

    I have adopted my mother's gardening philosophy and have been known to tell my plants they can live of they can die; the choice is theirs. Funny, they usually choose to live. It is a good thing too given my overall lack of gardening skills. :)
  • From:
    Supertrooper (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Jul 14 2004
    Lovely entry ..you take the mundane of everyday life and delight and entertain . I can so identify with you. I had forget me nots this summer too after trying for 11 years to grow some from seed to no avail,my neighbour gave me a plant last summer from her mums garden and lo and behold they blossomed.. to my utter joy.. this year .
    I like you very much and wish I knew you in the real world .
    Hugs
    Linda xx
  • From:
    Bookworm (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Jul 14 2004
    I think it's amazing you get anything to grow. I'm hopeless at gardening. As far as overripe bananas go, they hardly ever get to that stage around here, but they make great smoothies with some milk, ice-cream, etc. The kids love those. Or banana cake. ;-)
  • From:
    AeolianSolo (Legacy)
    On:
    Wed Jul 14 2004
    Never fear! I ALWAYS know where my towel is! It may not be clean, and it may have a little fraying about the edges, but it's MY towel, dammit! ;)

    --Solo