D'vorahDavida
Yetzirah

I Need A Hug
Thu Sep 22 2005

All right, I have to confess right up front, I didn't try on forty bras yesterday. But I DID try on fourteen. 

What a nightmare. 

I wandered into the ladies department spotting the racks and racks of bras lined up in intimidating rows as I approached from the jewelry department. I felt my toes curl up in my Birkenstocks. My fingers clenched around my Longaberger basket purse. Sweat formed a misty film on my upper lip. It's the flesh colored bras that bother me. They don't look normal. I make a bee line for a white one. 

For some reason these days there are a LOT of bras with thin foam pre-formed cups. I look at them and wonder, 'What if your breasts are not THAT shape?' I steer clear of them as much as possible. 

I eyed the salesgirl and decided she looked sympathetic. I told her I was in over my head and wasn't even sure what size I should be looking for. She promptly got out her measuring tape and in a trice let me know that indeed, I needed the next size up. And because I had asked for a fitting, would be getting 10% off my purchases today. Well, that made me feel a little better right away. Especially when I got a load of the prices on the merchandise. 

Armed with my new bra size, I spent 20 minutes wandering up and down the aisles plucking bras off the rack in a state of skeptical optimism. I did find one little number that I fell in love with. A frivolous little bit of almond lace threaded through with rose ribbon. Alas, smaller breasts were required for the honor of wearing it. Nothing above 34 B. When I could carry no more little plastic hangers, I headed for the fitting room. There was a sign that said something about no more than 6 items at a time, but I ignored it. The salesgirl was busy elsewhere, and there was no way I was going to run in and out of this place with 6 choices. Were this a guy story, this is the place where the hero would check his ammunition, flip off the safety, and shout over his shoulder. . .

 "I'm going in!" 

As long as I live, I will never understand why fitting rooms are always lit by the worst possible florescent lighting hung at the most unflattering angles. It makes my skin look very much like a cadaver. I can just imagine my poor flesh layed on a mad scientist's slab. And there he is, pumping various warm liquids into my veins, trying to revive me... I can just hear him whisper to his dim witted assistant.... "Let's try the chicken soup this time Igor. I had my mother make it special." 

As a general rule, I do not stare overlong in the mirror at anything but my face. There are some things I just don't need to know about myself, you know what I'm saying? So I can go for quite some time not KNOWING that my arms have developed these funny little flaps under them. Makes me wonder if I am morphing into a flying squirrel or something of that nature. I discover that I have some lumpy places that weren't there last time I looked. (I think it was sometime in 1997) My ribcage looks deformed. Especially in the bad light. There is a new roll sitting above my waist that I don't remember either. The hysterical thought runs through my mind.... 'Who is this woman and how did she get in my skirt? That's my hair allright,(more's the pity)... the face looks familiar, but this body.... there's something wrong with it.' 

I grit my teeth and start trying things on. One absurdity after another. Cups too small, cups too large. Wrinkles, gaps, squished places, too thin straps, too industrial, too flimsy. Oy Gevault! 

I end up with three piles. The keepers, the maybes and the NO WAY's. The keeper pile only has two bras in it. 

Pathetic. 

When I come to the end of the auditions, I grab my sweater and cover up the cadaver as quickly as possible. I can tell you for a certainty that the chicken soup didn't work. 

I went out and found companions for my choices and ended up with two of each. I paid 64 dollars for 4 bras. Even though I think that's hyway robbery, Iwould have paid more, just to get out of the place. I hope they last forever because I am NOT doing this again for a long, long time. I told the salesgirl (who by now is someone else because the first one has gone to lunch) that they should have a psychiatrist on duty to comfort women as they leave this department. She smiled indulgently at me above her 22 year old breasts held up by one of those foam contraptions, encased in a skin tight mauve spandex blouse. 

Just you wait missy, I thought. One of these days it'll be you in here realizing you need a bigger bra than you are used to and you will pay who knows how much money just to keep your boobs out of the basement. 

Just you wait.
17 Comments
  • From:
    Bookworm (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    You totally captured the horror of it all. ;-)
  • From:
    Dustbunny3 (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    OK a big HUG!! I hate being the sad news carrier , But it does not get better and the truth is hard to take. So I will pass on this one Cup Cake
  • From:
    RaisingMissRiss (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    ((((Hug))))

    LOL ... this entry was too funny!:D
  • From:
    ImNotLisa (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    OH THAT'S why I forgot to try on bras yesterday. Now I remember. Big, gigantic hugs coming your way!
  • From:
    MissTick (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    I think the reason they do this horrible lighting in changing rooms for they want you to feel that unbearable urge to buy all clothes in the shop to cover up what you'll see in the mirror...it's a cunning salesmen's trick, you see...the only other possible worse scenario - when they also put an armchairs by the changing rooms for husbands and other random men to sit and wait when their or someone else's half come out of the darkness in something hilarious and ask them "how do I look?"...Once I came out such way and heard two completley opposite answers to my question: one from my own hb and another one - from total stranger, that happenned to sit there as well...now...which one do I need to take as honest one, I wonder?...terrible, terrible - what they invent for spoiling shopping experience!...
    {{{HUGS}}} I think for all the stress you've been through you should now treat yourself with a nice spa or massage experience ;-)
  • From:
    Allimom (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    Sending HUGS your way, and some puppy kisses thrown in for good measure.

    I don't even look in the mirrors any more. I pointedly stare at the floor while I try clothes on. For underclothing if it is comfortable, I buy it sight unseen this way. For outerwear, if it is comfortable I have Hubby waiting outside to give a verdict. I've never seen myself in any of my clothing, I just take his word for it and press on.

    As far as bras go, a few years back I did what you did, found a brand and size I like and I just keep going back and buying that one. If it starts to feel snug I buy the next size up. If it feels loose I go the other way. It is a method that works for me!
    Alli
  • From:
    MsLauren (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    {{{HUGS}}}
    Oh, how I can relate! ;-)
    Lauren
  • From:
    Kordelle (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    this is good smiling hee hee

    I think women should go topless especially in the winter it would build caracter

    to little red hen....................
    I will have to go back in time to little red hen
    yes beak to beak is sanitary as long as you wash your beak with peroxide but dont put on too much peroxide your beak will fall off
    you can be too clean little red hen spiritually and physically now look at this antibiotic soak that destroys the immune system with overuse

    oh I feel so perverted and sick today hee hee
    ps somehow I dont feel that your male fans are going to show up for this post well we will see hee hee
    I challenge them to comment
  • From:
    Kordelle (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    ps the reason why you can be too spiritually clean is because if we believe in too much then there is too much to defend and ultimately the finger of criticism is waved
    I think it is good to engage in mental mud wrestling from time to time
    so relax little red hen dont worry too much about sanitation and your beak
  • From:
    Supertrooper (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    Enjoy your new bras darling ...at least they fit great now right ?
    Hugs and commiserations ..we have ALL being there buddy !
    Linda x
  • From:
    Kordelle (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    when I exalt myself I drag the universe along with me ha ha
  • From:
    Parett (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    I would love to give you a hug as long as I can get my arms around your larger bra size!!!!

    I guess I'll find out for sure in the next few weeks.

    Love you......Parett

  • From:
    Pragmatist (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    Ah, my dear Friend, here's a (((((BIG HUG)))))).

    I did something that I sometimes regret. I put a full length mirror on a door. But I really do need to check to see if my slip is showing, and standing on the toilet lid and peering into the vanity mirror just wasn't working. Otherwise, I try to ignore that particular door as much as possible.

    Well, 4 bras should last you a considerable time, especially if you don't put them in the DRYER, so you shouldn't have to go through this ordeal for another...oh...20 pounds?

    Shalom
  • From:
    Welshamethyst (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Sep 22 2005
    Yikes! Bra shopping is an horrific experience, isn't it?

    ((((((((hugs)))))))
  • From:
    Kordelle (Legacy)
    On:
    Fri Sep 23 2005
    by the way it is not nice to evaluate but this is excellent writing
  • From:
    InStitches (Legacy)
    On:
    Sat Sep 24 2005
    I can so relate......the last time I ventured into that department I only managed to find one I liked. I bought four of them. I would have bought more, but that was all they had. That should hold me for at least two years......or so I dare to hope.
  • From:
    Red (Unauthenticated) (Legacy)
    On:
    Thu Oct 06 2005
    I can only think of 2 worse situations to happen in a store...
    1)once while shoping with my sister she was the one trying on clothes. Well, we in my family have unfortunate large heads and hers got stuck in a dress--complete with arms flailing over her head. She came out of the dressing room into the mall like that....yikes!
    2)on my way back to change one group of 6 items to another, my hastily put back on skirt fell off. Ai.